I've learned to keep my roles down the hard way so I can have a good UFS/Life Balance. I have issues saying "No" to people even if I'm overwhelmed or have too much going on, so that can build up until I "break" and then I'm no longer happy. I have PTSD, anxiety, agoraphobia, and several physical health issues and up until February, my family was full-time caregivers for my dad. That can all build up until I feel like I'm cracking. If I'm not careful, I can become overwhelmed and trigger things like insomnia, stress, pain, etc. It can all build up until you crack. There are people who take on more than they can chew need to step back and ask themselves a few questions: Can I do this? Do I have time for this?
A few years ago, I was a blogger, full-time caregiver in RL, CompOps, RFL team captain, and several more things. Every time someone came to me asking me if I would help with something they needed, I would say yes. I didn't want to let anyone down by saying "no." It took me a long time and a lot of therapy to realize that I didn't need to say "yes" to everyone who came to me with a task they needed help with. It would be okay to say "no" and people wouldn't be upset with me. That's not saying some people weren't upset when I told them "no" but after years of saying "yes" to them for free work, they got over it.
I was so busy back then, that I no longer had time for the things that I enjoyed doing. Like art and being creative, writing, and overall enjoying myself with friends inworld and in RL or with family and those I consider family. I wasn't happy. I had to eliminate a lot of roles in my life to create a good work/life balance and be happy again. And I'm glad that I did because that allowed me to spend some more time with my dad before he passed away.
So I'm glad there's a 3 billet rule. It will allow others to become more active in the group by picking up roles that were taken by people with more than three roles. It ensures that members don't overwhelm themselves with too much and that gives them an option... If they want the new role, they have to decide what other role to let go of... In other words, it allows someone else to shine for awhile.
“You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.” —Bob Marley
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“A man either lives life as it happens to him, meets it head-on and licks it, or he turns his back on it and starts to wither away.” –Dr. Boyce, “The Menagerie,” (“The Cage”)
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